Beauty Tip of The Week

From time to time we all suffer from unsightly blemishes. Marie Claire gives a 7 step guide to covering those blemishes until they go away on their own!

http://www.marieclaire.com/fashion/fashionista-blog/hide-pimples-video

Dessert or Disaster

Girls: We come in all shapes, colors, and sizes…. and we all come with flaws. We’re a little needy. Can be a little clingy. We can be jealous, indecisive, and totally confusing. These are traits we may never admit to having. We may never even think they exist within us, and they may not... Until one day, you meet someone that turns your world upside down, and you realize that everything you experience before, with the guys in your past, is nothing compared to what your in store for.
Your emotions are no longer your own.
Your mood for the day is dictated by his.
Every song on the radio is about him, every beautiful quote reminds you of him,
and the sky that you’ve always known was blue is now purple, or green, or any other color that he says it is.
WHOA..sounds like a bit much right? And it probably shouldn’t be this way. But whether you like to admit it or not, it’s the truth… and that is only the beginning.

Building a relationship, it can be a beautiful thing. But it can also be one of the most frustrating things if the two are not on the same page. Two different pages, two different sets of expectations, only equals two people who probably won’t end up together. Not because they aren’t completely compatible, or maybe even perfect for one another, but nothing can last without full cooperation from both parties. Love…its powerful, but as powerful as it is..its not enough for a relationship to work. Despite what you may have learned from the movies and songs.. that love conquers all, it takes a little more. Don’t get me wrong, it’s the foundations that can build something great, but love along with effort and understanding can not only build something great, but it will build something that will never be crumbled at times of adversity.

So..Put in a little effort, put yourself out there. It can be hard, but everything worth having is worth fighting for, and there is nothing worse than wishing you had said something, or done something differently when it’s no longer possible.

And one more thing… SN: Acouple of wise guys recently schooled me. I couldn’t seem to understand why guys would always claim they liked you so much, and wanted to be with you, but showed no signs, other than words, that they were ready for a relationship. The guys told me that it is very possible for one to find the right one at the wrong time. Its happens almost daily, a guy may meet a girl that has everything he may be looking for, but at that time its not enough to get him to settle down, not with her only. But like everything else eventually that too will get old to him and he will search for you again. So let him go ladies, let him fly away, because and old saying tells us that if he comes back it was meant to be. And I believe it.

Healthfood Junkie

The economy is bad; the funds are low… and it so easy to grab something quick, fast and cheap to eat. I know, because I do it often. But, its time to get it together. We most often relate eating unhealthy with weight, either loosing or gaining, BUT, in actuality eating unhealthy has a domino effect on the rest of your body including your hair, nails, and skin. The Everyday girl loves nice hair, healthy nails, and clear skin, so let’s find some substitutes for out unhealthy eating habits.

For those who have that milkshake addiction… please…step into the world of SMOOTHIES!! Less calories, less sugar, an all together better choice. You could run over to Tropical Smoothie
every time you need a smoothie fix OR you can concoct one right in your own kitchen. Here’s how..

Ingredients:
1 Banana
6 Strawberries
1 Kiwi
½ cup vanilla frozen yogurt
¾ cup pineapple and orange juice blend
(If you dislike any of the above fruit substitute it with a fruit of your choice)

Directions: Put all ingredients into the blender and blend until smooth.
Now how easy is that!


Who doesn’t love a chocolate nut sundae!!
Chocolate syrup swirled through out vanilla ice cream. Piled high with nuts, and topped with whipped cream and cherries!!
OOOOk..so every girl should treat herself to one of these every now and again, BUT sometimes, try substituting that sundae with another frozen treat that you may find just as good. How about a little frozen yogurt?
I know of a yummy frozen yogurt spot on Broad St.

Very Berry! It also happens to have the cutest little set up I’ve ever seen on this campus…or any other. Check it out! Support local businesses! Pretty Please with a cherry on top.

Coffee every morning… looks great in the movies, and some of us actually pull it off in real life. How unhealthy is a daily dose of expresso? The world may never know. Coffee at its root probably isn’t really that bad, but by the time we finish filling it with sugar, adding a lil whip, cream and caramel here and there, it's nothing but a sugar attack waiting to happen. So.. to be on the safe side grab a glass of Simply Orange,

or some juice full of vitamin C..It’s great for you. Plus, grabbing Starbucks every morning can be hard on a everyday girl's purse.

I do understand, a girl needs that coffee every now and then, but guess what, that Caffe Mocha that you crave can be made can be made at home. Here’s how

Ingredients:
2 c. non-dairy creamer1 1/3 c. sugar1 1/2 c. dry milk1 c. instant coffee1/3 c. cocoa1 level tsp. cinnamon1/2 tsp. nutmeg

Directions:
Mix well. Add 2 or 3 teaspoons to 1 cup boiling water

It’s not that hard ladies. Healthy body = Healthy minds so in the words of Diddy “LETS GO”!!

Back To Basics

We all know about the specific characteristics that make us women. From the estrogen to the curves, we all exude femininity, yet no one girl is cut from the same cloth. As a matter of fact, most girls are cut from an entirely different fabric. There are certain values, beliefs, and habits that only some girls classify as priority. Some things should just never go undone, and sometimes these forgotten steps hold you back. Cater to yourself underneath all the clothes and make-up. The love of high end fashion and pink flowers may not run through the blood of every female, but the passion for sweet scents and moisturized skin should be on the top of every lady’s list.


Hair: Ok, so we are in college, and this can be the toughest time to find a beautician that you trust and can afford. But, don’t take out these problems on your tresses! Never bypass a good conditioner; it’s worth the few extra dollars. Leave-in, light weight conditioner compliments an exfoliating shampoo quite nicely, and your guy (or any guy) will love the gentle smell of your freshly washed hair. Also, too much blow drying and flat ironing can lead to unhealthy hair and force you to chop/screw it up like Rihanna just to save face. Generally, allow yourself a bi-weekly opportunity to put any heat on your hair. You can upkeep your look, and avoid breakage, throughout the week by pin curling, or wrapping your hair EVERY night. It’s not worth the fight in the morning ladies!

Nails: So just when you think the job is yours, you reach out to shake the interviewer’s hand, when you realize you’re in desperate need of a manicure! The powerful handshake that would have sealed the deal is quickly replaced with a fist pound. To avoid this kind of damage, it is important to treat your nails as often as you do your skin. Keep your hands moisturized during the day; most times soaps and hard work can leave our hands looking dry and feeling rough. This is also good for your cuticles. If it’s not in the budget to go to the nearest nail shop every two weeks, re-invent the salon treatment at home, and don’t leave out your feet. Soak in hot water, file, clip, polish, and lotion. Easy as pie!

Undergarments: Keep your goodies tucked away girls, but do it in style. Matching under sets can be hard to come by, but they serve a good purpose. Knowing that each separate piece has a match avoids the struggle of trying to find two options in the morning. Plus, the little touch of class and flair will give you an extra pep in your step that nobody has to know about.

Quick Tips: Moisturize your lips, Take care of small injuries to be sure they don’t become scares for life, Spritz a little perfume right out of the shower for premium pore intake, and Lotion daily (yes, even when you wont be showing any skin).

*If all else fails, at least be sure to throw on a little lipstick.

Word to the Wise..and the Not so wise.

It takes a stronger man to lose a battle than it does 2 slay a dragon. When the heat is turned up, and his pride is in the way of his heart, a dragon slayer will take on war, resorting to tactics of the weak 2 emerge victorious. Fighting dirty may win the match, but playing fair will win the game. However, a wise man will choose his weapons wisely..he will bite his tongue when it forms itself 2 spit venom and suppress his child like desire 2 go “tit for tat” against every tease and taunt. And just when it appears that he's losing, the dragon will fall flat, and admit his defeat. Now, let's just call this dragon "woman". Where is this strong man who will never stoop so low as to take on war with the woman he loves? Phenomenal women arise each day and keep their vision clear of the small flames and seek only 2 extinguish wild fires. One of my favorite sayings advises us 2 pick our battles. One should never waste their time with tiny little tiffs about who drunk the last swig of apple juice and instead save their energy to tackle the demons at their doorstep. Why ruin a lovely day with the person you love just to argue over what took her so long to get ready? One thing about an everyday girl is that she manages 2 see beyond the petty disputes when she has given her "he" her heart. She's the kind of girl who says what she means, not to hurt or degrade, instead she speaks with calm tone and gentle heart. When he sleeps in late and misses the first half of the weekend she had planned, she takes it easy on him, and uses the free time to do some spring cleaning instead. Brothers need 2 step up and follow suit! If she requests your affection during a stressful exam week, just comply, don’t waste your time complaining about how needy she can be at times. A better time to mention this flaw in her is when she begs you to come over at 3am to kill the spider under her bed. When she tells you her phone was in her purse and that explains the missed calls, or that the guy she ran into at the movies is JUST A FRIEND, let it go. But if it ever bothers you too much, tuck away the experience outside of your heart; if the battles begin to form a war, then and only then should you release. Build your knowledge.. think before you leap. Stepping to her about every little situation that arises will only lessen the final impact. Formulate a case and a plan before you point any fingers. Sometimes, you’ll realize your suspicions were without merit. Just a tip for the fellas..Save the drama until the well runs deep, besides, if she's a woman thru and thru, you'll never be able to prove her wrong anyways.

The Resurrection of Chivalry by Stefa'nie Aris

“Life is complicated, love is simple,” says Trevor Pierce, lead-actor on ABC’s new hit show, Cupid.
Men should still court women! Men should not be afraid to voice how they feel about a woman because he feels like less of a man because he is showing vulnerability. Where did chivalry go?
I can preach all day about how men should treat us like we are in a fairytale, but truth be told, WE ARE letting them get away with treating us in the opposite way!
In life, women make decisions about who they want to date and why. However, lately women have been settling for less than what they deserve. We are starting to let men get away with giving and treating us like the “norm”.


WE don’t mind if men don’t open the doors for us anymore!
WE don’t mind if men just want to “chill” with us instead of asking us on a REAL date!
WE are letting men “talk” to us for longer than three months without making a commitment to us!
WE are ALLOWING men to get away with these things!

THIS IS WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS!

Just like Steve Harvey said, we have to start setting standards and requirements for men or they will not take us seriously! If he cannot handle our standards than he is not the one for us!
Face it, LADIES! (And I use the term LADIES, loosely!) We deserve so much better! However, if we don’t show that we deserve better and carry ourselves like we deserve better than we won’t receive better! Have class! Make yourself number one! And don’t fall for the bs! Let’s began to have a no bs theory when it comes to men and ourselves!
<3 Stef!

Milk, Eggs, Bread, and Makeup??

How long have you had that perfect shade of eye shadow? You know, that metallic gold that tickles your fancy; the reason behind that extra gleam in your eyes on the starry nights. What if I told you that very same shadow you’ve been harboring since high school {and the matching lipstick} is potentially hazardous to your health? Raises a few eyebrows, but I can prove it. Check out this article written in Marie Claire Magazine warning women about expired makeup:

Click Here

Digital Travesty

It’s important to capture life’s most precious moments on film. Tuck away the memories for the rainy cleaning days when you uncover an old image that forces your mind to replay the captured point in time, good or bad. Isn’t that the beauty in growing old? The ability to grow from your past..the joy in seeing that change play out. Ever since Facebook and Myspace, the hard copy photos, with reels and reels of negatives, have slowly diminished. We often try so hard to capture a new “profile pic” we forget to capture the realness of it all. There are never pictures of the late nights with the girls, not when the make-up is off, and you’re all piled up in a room pretending you can sing like Beyonce. What happened to disposables? The days of waiting 6 months after you’ve used up the 27 exposures, finally taking the trip to the one hour photo spot..then spending the rest of the day laughing and reminiscing. These days, we snap a shot, review, delete, and retry. Remember when there were no do-overs? After the flashing light, the moment was frozen behind the camera; red-eyes, glared lens and all. The random days, with the most cray faces show you inner beauty. Take a lesson from our parents, who often bring out the boxes and scrapbooks filled with afro puffs, psychedelic dresses, and platform shoes; but no matter how embarrassed they are today, the past brings only smiles. Who wants to wake up at age forty, to find a photo album full of glamour shots and second takes? No life is lived without scrapes and bruises..so show your war wounds.

BOOKS OR BOYS? How About Both

Spring semester is winding down fast. We are half way through!!
You know what that means. Time to hit the books hard,
But with the winter leaving, and the spring coming in,
days are getting longer, and nights of studying all night

are becoming shorter
or non existent.
Flowers aren’t the only things that bloom during the spring
Relationships do also…So I’ve heard.
So on that warm night, when there is so much more to do than your school work
And he wants nothing more than the company of you
What will you choose to cuddle up with… books or boys?

How can you get your work done, while not neglecting your guy?
Sounds hard, but I’ve see it done.

*Try studying together, this works out good for those couples who both attend the same college. It is possible that you may definitely serve as a distraction to one another, so stay out of your room…try the library.

*If you’re sure you’re the type of girl who can and will NOT productively get work done with “him” around, than make sure you set aside time just for you and your books, and he is not allowed. It sounds bad, but a few hours away from him is better than the alternative…failing!

*If your one of those girls who stays on the phone with your guy all day (and don’t be fooled, texting can be just as distracting as talking). Set aside some quiet time. Make sure he understands when it is, and what it means. If you take it seriously, he will too.

*He’s planned a weekend get away just for you two and you have a big paper due the day after you expect to return. You’ve known about the paper and the trip for weeks. DON’T WAIT TILL THE LAST MINUTE. Work on your paper throughout the week prior to your trip and the papers due date. Its human nature to put off till tomorrow what we could do today, but this is not acceptable, nor will it work. You will rush your paper the night of, it may suck, and you may fail it. Just don’t do it. You don’t have to choose between the trip and the grade. If this is done correctly, you can enjoy both your romantic get-away..and possibly and “A”.

We are all very aware of how convincing some guys are and how distracting relationships (especially new relationships) can be… So, at times you may have to put your foot down, or maybe even pull out your little jar of self-discipline, but please note: if you’ve found the guy…the right guy… he will want you to succeed and managing books and boys wont be a problem!

When It's Too Good To Be True

“When it’s too good to be true, it usually is.”
That’s how the old saying goes.
In most cases, I must say I do agree with the old cliché.
But sometimes, we as females can be guilty of jumping the gun.
We tend seek out the “negative”,

we call ourselves being careful.

But..

Lets be honest
Excuse are usually what they really are.
We meet a guy..
A nice guy...
He’s Cute, respectful, caring, funny.
He makes you smile, he’s smart, he know what he wants out of life
and clearly he want YOU to be a part of it.
To good to be true, Right?
Some may tell you to run the other way. Something is wrong with him!
But when is enough... enough
But when does it all end.
When do we STOP running,
STOP judging,
Stare Mr. “perfect for you” right in the face, and simply…
Accept Him.
Accept that you can...but don’t want to be without him.
Accept that you are willing to risk getting hurt, because you think you’ve found the one who never will.
I must admit, this can be a little risky.
And this is NOT permission to act in a naïve manner,
but I am one who has strong faith a women’s intuition.
If it feels wrong; it usually is
But if it feels right, embrace it, because it just may be!

The "Seesaw" Effect

In the midst of the playground we call love, we often find ourselves falling off the balance beam. We as females want a man that can rock steady on both ends of the seesaw. On one end we want a smart, adorable, overly romantic Steve Urkel. On the other we want the smooth, handsome, take charge characteristics of Stefan. Between men and women we have to find a common ground that levels the playing field. After a snow day full of girl talk and man bashing I have developed a stronger insight. As a female, I often find myself desiring attention and craving to be spoiled. Dreaming of the day when I can marry the man who will provide for his family and cater to my needs, i.e. feed me with a silver spoon with the world on a silver platter. However, I find that in relationships most girls can’t stand it when a man is too affectionate, or incredibly smothering. We want a man that is strong, and powerful, not soft and sensitive. We even sometimes cringe at the thought of romance! Like when the guy you have been seeing surprises you with flowers and candy in the most unusual setting. Or when you two are cuddling up close and he whispers a sweet song in your ear; you suppress the giggles, and vow that you will never mention this one to the girls for fear that they will never let you live it down. When you’re conjuring up the perfect man in your head, these little gestures are definitely a part of the package, so why is it so crazy once he finally comes to life? I hate to admit it, but I’m just as guilty. I often thought that I wanted a man with a sensitive side to match mine, and the ability to hold a conversation with me. Now that I have found my ideal match, I often take him for granted. When I’m feeling lonely, I want him to shower me with praises and speak in the softest tones; on the other hand, when my independence kicks in I want him to be more aggressive and stop worrying so much about me. Now I see why he thinks I’m crazy! We constantly yo-yo these guys up and down without even understanding what we want ourselves. It’s easy to fall for the guy who breaks your heart a thousand times, because you know what you are getting yourself into. But when it comes to the real deal, we worry that it’s all too good to be true. I wish I could say that I have come up with some full-proof plan that will give us the best of both worlds and more, but I don’t. The only way to even things out is to work like a team..sometimes you just have to take the vacant end of the seesaw to keep yourselves off the ground. When a man loves a woman, he strays away from that macho talking pit bull, and embraces his inner puppy dog. But don’t worry..you’re sure to find him barking and clawing up the floors every now and then.

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

What to think when a guy introduces you by only your name or as a friend?

The 5 questions every girl should ask if she wants to know how serious he is??
Wht 3 things do guys NEED no matter what??

Whats your guy's plan for you??

And last but certainly NOT least

THE 90 DAY PLAN!!

Its a MUST READ Ladies

Find out all these things and MORE..

Pick up the #1 advice book in America:

"Act Like A Lady, Think Like Man"by Steve Harvey @ your favorite bookstore!!

SPRING 2009: Lipst!ck Secrets to Beauty!

First and foremost
Clean Healthy Skin is the #1 beauty secret.
Make it your prioriy
when it comes to
your beauty regime and it will prove to
be benificial.. I Pinky Promise
(BTW..Read and Discuss Pinky's views on issues you care about.
Ask her for help..You wont be let down)
ANYWHO..back to our regulary scheduled program....


NAiLS!! NaILS!! NAiLS!!
Sally Hansen Spring 2009 Collection
Healthy nails..
Fun colors!!


Less is More..
try softening those eyes
Here are some of Bobbi Brown's picks for Spring 2009


The nude lip is in for 09'
Red/berry collors will also be in full effect.
I suggest you go all out on gloss.
MAC cosmetics can be a little pricey BUT..
YOU WILL BE PLEASED


Bronzer is a MUST
Especially for you pale readers LOL
But also if your just trying to achieve
the Beyonce/J Lo glow.
I love Black Radiance!!
it is very affordable and
can be found at a plethora of places.


For BOLD "LOOK AT ME" Lashes..
Try COVERGIRL Lash Blast
You could always turn to fake lashes
but this will give you a nice natural look.


**Spring break is around the corner**

Ladies, just because you are african american
does not mean you are immune to the damages
that ultraviolet rays can cause..Dont be a victim.
IT HURTS
Protect your skin by using SPF beauty products.

Have fun...stay Beautiful.
Lipst!ck

Directions to the Nearest EXIT

It's common in relationships for every fight to feel like the last. You know those moments in a relationship when you feel as if the end is near? You are finally “sick of it”, you “can’t take it anymore”, ”it’s over”. The usual half serious remarks you shout before you slam the door for what appears to be the final time. Yet, in reality both you and your partner will soon simmer down and re-evaluate, only to come to the mutual decision that you belong together. However, when this situation rewinds itself and repeats bi-weekly, things get tricky. Your friends begin to notice and eggshells are everywhere, those topics you meticulously avoid for fear that you will ignite the fires. The tension lures overhead, becoming the elephant in every room. Anger causes the outbursts of insanity..those red-eyed-shrill-screams; for lack of a better word let's call these moments hysteria. The 2.5 brief seconds that you catch a peak at the monster that hides beneath the surface. When is it the right time to accept that it is, definitively, the time to part ways?


We are an ever evolving society, built to last; learning to accept what is thrown at us, and nurse the wounds as they come. Literally. Fighting to salvage the smallest remnants, pieces that may never resume their natural state. The bits and ends that formulate your thoughts, conjure up your smile; desperately seeking after the pieces of you. But the old feeling is stuck in your head, branded by the memories of the beginning. The special days when you fell asleep with butterflies and every love song reminded him of you. Although you haven't seen the beauty amidst the thorns for quite some time, you continue to send the search party out. Keeping all eyes and ears open, waiting for the slightest sign of affection..the sweetest symbol of joy. Coaxed along by the glimpses of hope, like that tuesday every other week when he wakes you up with an "I Love You" text. Or when he finally keeps his word, shows up on time..for the first time. These small battles seem like stepping stones. Only they're not, they're pebbles. They reveal themselves sparingly, in small bouts, when you are almost sure you're through. Scattered about, blocked behind the huge boulders that deter you on your way towards the door. Why keep forcing it? Convincing yourself that you're happy, make-believe perfection..clasping on to cold hands, sharing pretend embraces. Holding on is harder than letting go..for good reason. Sometimes, it's best to accept the end. It's not giving up, or throwing in the towel..au contraire, it's bittersweet victory. You have reached the finish line, and met your match..now bow out gracefully.

Pinky Says, "Fight Fire With Fire"..

Dear Pinky,

I have been dealing with some issues surrounding my relationship. To start with, my boyfriend has been very unavailable. He sleeps in and works late, throwing off the time we have to communicate. It bothers me that he can make time for the things he feels are important; such as clubbing, video games, and basketball at the gym. At first I thought I was just asking for too much from him, seeking too much attention, but isn’t it my right to need his affection? To elevate my issues, I am now beginning to grow attracted to a guy I just started working with. After his begging, I finally agreed to go with him to lunch. We talked and laughed, and he was the perfect gentlemen. He even pulled out my chair! It seemed innocent, but I find myself thinking about him constantly. I don’t want to leave my man for this guy, but somehow, the thought of being catered to, and showered with the attention I am being deprived makes the grass look a lot greener on the other side. What should I do?


Pink Promise says:

Dear “Torn in between the two”,

We as woman do need attention, as the saying goes “what one won’t do another will”. But, when you step out of your relationship knowing that you are unhappy with certain aspects about your relationship and your partner, therein lies another issue you’re going to have to deal with. It is one thing to be unhappy and still do everything in your power to be a good girlfriend. In this case, if the relationship does end, you will be able to say to yourself, “I as a woman did everything in my power to make the relationship work and to keep it going.” The date with the man was not as innocent as you think, more than likely you knew that he may have wanted more than friendship. You were curious so you went on the date with him, and now you’re curiosity allowed something you thought was innocent to turn into something that will either ruin your relationship or make it stronger. You have to weigh the pros and cons of your relationship and it seems like the problem you’re having is “fixable”. Communication is best; tell him the way you are feeling without sounding like the stereotypical nagging girlfriend. Tell him exactly how you feel, its all about “tact”, talk to him when you guys are just chilling. Another way is to “fight fire with fire”, you find some new hobbies of your own, that don’t involve another man. If he genuinely cares about spending time with you he will more than likely say something about you not being around as often, and when this happens you can tell him exactly how you feel. Make sure you have some solutions that you think will help the problem, because there is no point in complaining if you don’t have any solutions.

P.S Pinky Promise's "everything is o.k in the end, if it's not o.k then it's not the end".

Introducing: Pinky Promise

Ladies, you are about to become very well acquainted with the girl you've always dreamed of..all hetero. This fearless female will tackle any issue you find yourself challenged with, whether its your lazy boyfriend, or the nosey neighbors. Sometimes your homegirls can be way too judgemental, not to mention they don't really have it all together themselves. Pinky Promise is the best of both worlds. She's seen and heard it all, now she just wants to help you!

Post a comment OR Email your troubling tribulations, anonymously of course, and a response will be posted promptly. Lipstickkisses@ymail.com

CRAZY + You = Love?

Have you ever wondered why you stray completely outside of your character when you fall for that special someone? Suddenly the world revolves around him, and your mission to claim his heart..by any means necessary. Beyonce proclaimed it with her hit single, and Jazmine Sullivan destroyed her man's ride; But no matter how trendy it has become, "crazy" just doesn't look good on anyone. Cosmopolitan magazine uses expert advice to shed light on the problem, and even help you find a solution. First step, admitting you have a problem:

Just a little Crazy? Click Here

VCU's Ladies Men: The Tell All

After a failed attempt to get some sit down time with these guys, or as they call themselves, “ladies men”, they finally showed up before they headed off into the local night life. You see, its homecoming here at VCU, but every night is a party with these two guys. In our book, to use the phrase “ladies man” in reference to men of their nature is an understatement. They are the type of guys to walk into your house, raid your fridge, and challenge you to a dance off, all while arranging (via text message) private dates with their pick for the evening. Tonight was no different.
Upon arrival, they alerted us with rhythmic knocks at the door. Swiftly brushing past, after they were invited in of course, heading for the nearest computer. Facebook, check. It’s versatile, serving as their little black book, event planner, photo tracker, and all around autobiography. There were constant distractions, but with a lot of persistence on our part, we finally got them to settle down and spill it.

Lipstick: So, how would you describe yourself when it comes to females?
Ladies Man 1: ah ha ha…umm, I guess a ladies man. That’s it, a ladies man. I get all the girls man.
[Ladies Man 2 was unavailable to start with, his phone being his constant distraction]

Lipstick: Okay, so how many girls do you “date” per week?
LM1: I say at least three right now, yea three.

Lipstick: Well what is the maximum number of girls you’ve “dated” simultaneously?
LM1: (leaning back to ponder; counting on his fingers) I say about five. Five plus one.
[we all laugh]
Ladies Man 2: (finally chiming in) with everything included? Nah, it’s more than that sometimes.
LM1: Yea, I’ll just go for seven days a week.

Lipstick: So do you feel as if every girl knows where she stands with you?
LM1: No. I don’t actually, but I tell them.
Lipstick: So you think they should know?
LM1: Some of them should know. If you’re over my house one day, and you’re not over there for the next four or five days, you know what I’m doing. You know it.

Lipstick: Implying that every guy needs female companionship for every day of the week?
LM1: No, not necessarily. But you have to please the girls so...
Lipstick: Oh, so it’s for the sake of the girls?
LM1: You can’t always woo the girls.
LM2: It’s not always about sex.
Lipstick: So you think about her feelings sometimes?
LM1: Yea, sometimes it is about her feelings.
Lipstick: Just to keep her around?
LM1: yea, just to keep them around.
Lipstick: But, not because you really care?
LM1: But not because...yea, yea.
LM2: If you can pull it off, and you can keep them around, why not? Unless you’re wife’n (exclusively dating) somebody up all the way, then that’s just how it is. You always want more than you can bite off.

Lipstick: So, with that said, when is it the right time to cut-it off?
LM1: I would say never.
Lipstick: If a girl begins to get extremely attached, and shows that she has deeper feelings than what you have, you don’t feel like it’s the time to end it?
LM1: That’s when you end it. That’s the time when you start cutting it off. I’ll just say, “I’m just not dealing with you anymore.”
LM2: You just start woo’in it.
Lipstick: And you can just break it off with no problem?
LM1: No problem. NO problem!! Cuz’ she’s getting too emotional.

Lipstick: So, do think that your emotions ever get involved when you least expect it? For example, if you thought you would eventually cut her off, but she rose above what you expected her to be?
LM1: Umm, I say yea. Actually, yes. Some girls that you thought you would just mess with might end up becoming wifey material.

Lipstick: What are the qualities that a girl should possess to make you want to become exclusive with her?
LM1: Well for me, you know, I’m funny and I like to joke a lot. So she has to be funny, and smart. And basically she has to kind of cater to the things I like to do. We have to meet halfway. That’s about it for real.
LM2: And I’m a momma’s boy, if my mother doesn’t accept you, you’ll never last.
LM1: Yea man.
Lipstick: Okay, so how important is it that she is exclusive with you, although you may not be exclusive with her?
LM1: One hundred percent, a hundred and ten percent necessary.

*Phone calls, side conversation, and bathroom breaks allow the conversation to digress for a moment. Followed by more Facebook activity, and then reminders to one another that they will need time to “pre-game” before the party.

Lipstick: Because of your reputation of being a ladies man, do you feel like when you want to get serious with a girl, she views you a certain way, making it more difficult to get to that level?
LM2: Yup!
LM1: No, I don’t think so.
LM2: I disagree. The con of this situation is sometimes a girl has this image of you, they think about this, they give you heat for everything you do. Certain things that you do they wouldn’t get mad at somebody else for but they’ll get mad at you. They think you always messing around with somebody else, because of the stereotypes.
LM1: I say no, I still say no. I mean there are some girls that only mess with you because of your status, but you slowly get those out. The ones that are really there for you, they are going to give their all to be with you, and they’re going to have to trust you. If she doesn’t trust you there is no point in the relationship. So she has to trust you, until you break that trust.

Lipstick: Have you ever had your heart broken?
LM1/LM2: Yes!

The format of the conversation changed a bit after this. We slowly melded into one another. No longer was this a macho man talk, we all shared a bond that united us immediately: heartbreak. We exchanged stories of loves come and gone. LM1 recited the anecdote that still weighs heaviest on his heart. The story of his first love and longest relationship (8 months) made the life he now leads much more empathetic. She was the only girl that he had given his heart to, only to receive it back in pieces, after he was forced to end their relationship when he learned she had been hooking up with several of his friends. LM2 sang a different song, his dealings with a girl lasted all through high school into college, until she grew tired of waiting on commitment. He admits that he took her for granted, Only just recently has this begun to affect him; they say absence makes the heart grow fonder and it doesn’t hurt when you run into your old flame looking particularly gorgeous, and paying you no mind. Both men blame their feelings towards monogamy on these failed relationships. This brought us to the final question:

Lipstick: So do you ever want to be in a relationship?
LM1: Yea, sometimes.
LM2: Depends on the day.
LM1: It’s harder to deal with six different girls than just one. We make it harder on ourselves. Jump through he most hoops, turn the phone off, and do not answer the text...
LM2: So many decisions! Like, “who am I going to woo today?” You have to have your lies together! Your lies have to be solid.
LM1: Five girls get woo’d everyday, only one gets to lay in the bed.

As women in this male dominated society, we spend a lot of time “man bashing.”
So much time in fact, that we sometimes forget that every scar has a story, every wrinkle a past. These two bachelors have participated in their fair share of devious deeds, and have given reason to raise an eyebrow or two, but somewhere under the surface, they’re just a pair of momma’s boys.

Is He Into You??....The College Years

He's Just Not That Into You If.....

*You always text/call first.

*You text...ask a question...he replies..But does NOT elaborate
(for example: idk, Yea, Maybe)
*Only wants to come by at night..perhaps after the club.
*Gives you the "one arm, pat on the back" hug.
*All your girls know about him...but none of his boys know about you.
*He tends to ask you for advise..About other girls

He Just May Be Into You If...
*Wants to bring you around his friends. (show you off a little)
*You start seeing him in places you didn't used to..(this one doesn't work if your stalking him)
*Remembers "stuff" you've only mentioned once.

(for example: birthday, big exams to come, hometown)

*He tries to befriend your friends.

*Suggest you guys do little things together like pick up lunch on campus or study together.

*Says that he is...(sometimes guys can be pretty straight up...believe it or not)

Girl Talk..On The Big Screen

The leading ladies of the self-help book turned box office hit (presumably of course) chatted up about love and life for the March issue of Marie Claire magazine..check it out:

http://www.marieclaire.com/celebrity-lifestyle/celebrities/interviews/just-not-that-into-you-interview?click=pp

He's Just Not That Into You in theatres Feb.6th

Cinematic Chic

Angst and frustration rushed my face all at once as we filed into the small theatre.
I slowly, drudgingly, forced myself to find my seat, being lectured with each step.
Typical scenario, girl meets guy, they fall in love,
only to find that he is the murderer of all things “chick flick”!
From the moment we glanced over the glowing show times,
I could smell the blood on the horizon.
He objected my every request.
“NO” Australia, Nicole Kidman apparently reeks of romance.
We were forced into a corner, with my rebuttal of all things that dripped sweat and blood.
The end result being the awkward “back-up” pick;
The comedy that inevitably fell short.

My genetic make-up is designed, pre-destined if u will,
to adore the sights and sound of ‘love’ on the silver screen.
Who am I to decline myself of this innate desire?!
“Chick Flicks” have raked in three-fourths of my movie budget since I was old enough to love patent leather pumps, and high-end designers.
I’ve been soothed to sleep on countless nights by romantic comedies, and who hasn’t coaxed themselves out of heartbreak with the ephemeral desire to be “just like them”.
They make me laugh, after I’ve cried through scenes 4-9.
The stories of break-up to make-up; the saga of Carrie and Mr. Big.
It is within these storylines that we find ourselves most enthralled.
Often times, we get ourselves so wrapped up in the extravagant romance, that these fictional dramas become reality television.
“The Notebook” opened the flood gates, as we longed for Allie to retain her memory, just long enough so the romance wouldn’t have to die.
And how many times have we found ourselves yelling for the ice frozen Jack to “wake up!” when the Titanic is steadily crumbling beneath the HD?
These are the times where we shed ourselves of the suit of armor we wear proudly through the day. The only 2hours we have to feel sorry for someone other than ourselves, even if they only exist on the big screen. Just when you think that there are no happy endings, you sit in the darkened theater, oblivious to your date sleeping on the next armrest, and let go that sigh of relief…there’s still hope.

We Love the Fairytales..but..THIS IS REAL LIFE

It’s easy to answer hypothetical questions.
What we should do if..
What we would do if..
What we would never do.
But what happens…
when it happens
And a hypothetical answer is no longer an option
What should you
What would you
What would you never do?
“Never say never”…
I know..the epitome of cliché
But
You never know

Krystal speaks on her unplanned pregnancy:
Part 1:

One Step in a New Direction..

Have you ever met that guy that makes your stomach tickle, and gives your heart wings?
Have you ever thought you met that guy, only to find those tickles turn into hard jabs, left and right, and your heart fly away with him..?
Rhetorical questions…but you would have answered “yes”.
So now, you’re thinking, “men are all the same,” and you’re destined to be alone.
You know, you think you will be that old lady who sits at home, caressing her ten cats all day.
With a future full of take-out menus and endless quarts of rocky road.
Will you also be serving cake at this pity party you’re throwing yourself?!
Drop the routine, start thinking smart.
Start thinking new.
Start thinking lipstick.
No, literally, think lipstick, and perfume, and a little black dress.
Blow the week’s pay every once in a while, every girl deserves it.
Be the life of the party, wherever the venue.
Whether it’s a trip to the local supermarket or a movie night with the girls, let yourself shine.
“Strutting your stuff” is a quick remedy to any signs of possible oncoming depression, you don’t need a runway.
Strike your best pose when you’re waiting at the median to cross over the street; sway your hips a little when you head through the frozen food aisle.
There is something in a woman’s walk that can move mountains.
It gives us leverage, a little something to tip the hand in our favor.
We posses many assets, once we learn to tap in.
Now, I must forewarn, this will not solve everything…must I repeat?
THIS IS NOT A CURE.
There is still an issue to be addressed…your love life.
Love is not a puzzle; we would never be able to put all the pieces together.
However, as with any equation, we must start the work from within.
Step one…own your stride.