Milk, Eggs, Bread, and Makeup??

How long have you had that perfect shade of eye shadow? You know, that metallic gold that tickles your fancy; the reason behind that extra gleam in your eyes on the starry nights. What if I told you that very same shadow you’ve been harboring since high school {and the matching lipstick} is potentially hazardous to your health? Raises a few eyebrows, but I can prove it. Check out this article written in Marie Claire Magazine warning women about expired makeup:

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Digital Travesty

It’s important to capture life’s most precious moments on film. Tuck away the memories for the rainy cleaning days when you uncover an old image that forces your mind to replay the captured point in time, good or bad. Isn’t that the beauty in growing old? The ability to grow from your past..the joy in seeing that change play out. Ever since Facebook and Myspace, the hard copy photos, with reels and reels of negatives, have slowly diminished. We often try so hard to capture a new “profile pic” we forget to capture the realness of it all. There are never pictures of the late nights with the girls, not when the make-up is off, and you’re all piled up in a room pretending you can sing like Beyonce. What happened to disposables? The days of waiting 6 months after you’ve used up the 27 exposures, finally taking the trip to the one hour photo spot..then spending the rest of the day laughing and reminiscing. These days, we snap a shot, review, delete, and retry. Remember when there were no do-overs? After the flashing light, the moment was frozen behind the camera; red-eyes, glared lens and all. The random days, with the most cray faces show you inner beauty. Take a lesson from our parents, who often bring out the boxes and scrapbooks filled with afro puffs, psychedelic dresses, and platform shoes; but no matter how embarrassed they are today, the past brings only smiles. Who wants to wake up at age forty, to find a photo album full of glamour shots and second takes? No life is lived without scrapes and bruises..so show your war wounds.

BOOKS OR BOYS? How About Both

Spring semester is winding down fast. We are half way through!!
You know what that means. Time to hit the books hard,
But with the winter leaving, and the spring coming in,
days are getting longer, and nights of studying all night

are becoming shorter
or non existent.
Flowers aren’t the only things that bloom during the spring
Relationships do also…So I’ve heard.
So on that warm night, when there is so much more to do than your school work
And he wants nothing more than the company of you
What will you choose to cuddle up with… books or boys?

How can you get your work done, while not neglecting your guy?
Sounds hard, but I’ve see it done.

*Try studying together, this works out good for those couples who both attend the same college. It is possible that you may definitely serve as a distraction to one another, so stay out of your room…try the library.

*If you’re sure you’re the type of girl who can and will NOT productively get work done with “him” around, than make sure you set aside time just for you and your books, and he is not allowed. It sounds bad, but a few hours away from him is better than the alternative…failing!

*If your one of those girls who stays on the phone with your guy all day (and don’t be fooled, texting can be just as distracting as talking). Set aside some quiet time. Make sure he understands when it is, and what it means. If you take it seriously, he will too.

*He’s planned a weekend get away just for you two and you have a big paper due the day after you expect to return. You’ve known about the paper and the trip for weeks. DON’T WAIT TILL THE LAST MINUTE. Work on your paper throughout the week prior to your trip and the papers due date. Its human nature to put off till tomorrow what we could do today, but this is not acceptable, nor will it work. You will rush your paper the night of, it may suck, and you may fail it. Just don’t do it. You don’t have to choose between the trip and the grade. If this is done correctly, you can enjoy both your romantic get-away..and possibly and “A”.

We are all very aware of how convincing some guys are and how distracting relationships (especially new relationships) can be… So, at times you may have to put your foot down, or maybe even pull out your little jar of self-discipline, but please note: if you’ve found the guy…the right guy… he will want you to succeed and managing books and boys wont be a problem!

When It's Too Good To Be True

“When it’s too good to be true, it usually is.”
That’s how the old saying goes.
In most cases, I must say I do agree with the old cliché.
But sometimes, we as females can be guilty of jumping the gun.
We tend seek out the “negative”,

we call ourselves being careful.

But..

Lets be honest
Excuse are usually what they really are.
We meet a guy..
A nice guy...
He’s Cute, respectful, caring, funny.
He makes you smile, he’s smart, he know what he wants out of life
and clearly he want YOU to be a part of it.
To good to be true, Right?
Some may tell you to run the other way. Something is wrong with him!
But when is enough... enough
But when does it all end.
When do we STOP running,
STOP judging,
Stare Mr. “perfect for you” right in the face, and simply…
Accept Him.
Accept that you can...but don’t want to be without him.
Accept that you are willing to risk getting hurt, because you think you’ve found the one who never will.
I must admit, this can be a little risky.
And this is NOT permission to act in a naïve manner,
but I am one who has strong faith a women’s intuition.
If it feels wrong; it usually is
But if it feels right, embrace it, because it just may be!

The "Seesaw" Effect

In the midst of the playground we call love, we often find ourselves falling off the balance beam. We as females want a man that can rock steady on both ends of the seesaw. On one end we want a smart, adorable, overly romantic Steve Urkel. On the other we want the smooth, handsome, take charge characteristics of Stefan. Between men and women we have to find a common ground that levels the playing field. After a snow day full of girl talk and man bashing I have developed a stronger insight. As a female, I often find myself desiring attention and craving to be spoiled. Dreaming of the day when I can marry the man who will provide for his family and cater to my needs, i.e. feed me with a silver spoon with the world on a silver platter. However, I find that in relationships most girls can’t stand it when a man is too affectionate, or incredibly smothering. We want a man that is strong, and powerful, not soft and sensitive. We even sometimes cringe at the thought of romance! Like when the guy you have been seeing surprises you with flowers and candy in the most unusual setting. Or when you two are cuddling up close and he whispers a sweet song in your ear; you suppress the giggles, and vow that you will never mention this one to the girls for fear that they will never let you live it down. When you’re conjuring up the perfect man in your head, these little gestures are definitely a part of the package, so why is it so crazy once he finally comes to life? I hate to admit it, but I’m just as guilty. I often thought that I wanted a man with a sensitive side to match mine, and the ability to hold a conversation with me. Now that I have found my ideal match, I often take him for granted. When I’m feeling lonely, I want him to shower me with praises and speak in the softest tones; on the other hand, when my independence kicks in I want him to be more aggressive and stop worrying so much about me. Now I see why he thinks I’m crazy! We constantly yo-yo these guys up and down without even understanding what we want ourselves. It’s easy to fall for the guy who breaks your heart a thousand times, because you know what you are getting yourself into. But when it comes to the real deal, we worry that it’s all too good to be true. I wish I could say that I have come up with some full-proof plan that will give us the best of both worlds and more, but I don’t. The only way to even things out is to work like a team..sometimes you just have to take the vacant end of the seesaw to keep yourselves off the ground. When a man loves a woman, he strays away from that macho talking pit bull, and embraces his inner puppy dog. But don’t worry..you’re sure to find him barking and clawing up the floors every now and then.